Healthy self-esteem means feeling good about yourself...
When you have high self-esteem, you create energy in your life to make things happen.
When you feel good about yourself, it is easier to know you matter, and what you do does make a difference. Be aware that every negative belief diminishes your ability to value yourself.
Low self-esteem comes in a variety of packages. Some try to cover up their low self-esteem with lots of accomplishments and trappings while others almost flaunt their failures. Low self-esteem manifests itself in diverse ways and is often illusive to self and others.
Healthy Self-Esteem means feeling good about yourself and this does not mean you are conceited. Rather, you have a positive attitude about yourself and pride in your accomplishments.
"Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Symptoms of Low Self -Esteem
If you answer "Yes” to any of these, then stress, anxiety, fear could be affecting your life, with or without your awareness.
o Do you have self-blame, self-consciousness, shame or guilt?
o Do you find it difficult to trust others?
o Do you feel guilty without always knowing why? Worry, anxiety,
obsessive thinking?
o Do you have feelings of negativity, pessimism, irritability?
o Do you have feelings of alienation, of hopelessness, indecisiveness,
confusion, hard to think?
o Is living alone or independently unthinkable?
What Causes Low Self -Esteem?
o Dysfunctional family
o Death of a loved one
o Abused as a child
o Divorce (especially a bitter one)
o Destruction or loss of personal or sentimental property
o Inability to manage finances or hold a job
o Insufficient emotional or physical comfort
o Emotional, physical, mental, verbal... all types of abuse
Self-esteem is the value we place on ourselves. Enhancing and repairing your self-esteem is the best thing you can do for your health and recovery. Self-esteem determines how you live. It determines how you talk, how you handle your relationships, what career you choose, what kind of lifestyle you create, and how you think, feel and act.
Your self-esteem is one thing in your life that is in your control, and it influences everything in your life.
Building Up Your Self-Esteem - Use these stepping stones
o Stand and walk with good posture.
o Take a strong commitment and a conscious effort to succeed in
building your own self esteem.
o The next time you make a mistake, be forgiving of yourself.
o Redefine "selfish". Learn to love yourself and to take care of your
needs effectively. You can get your needs met and still have love in
your life.
o Take responsibility for your life and your well-being and STOP
taking responsibility for other people's lives. It's great to help
people, but they are still responsible for their own situations and
actions.
o Spend more time with people who encourage you, and less time with
people who discourage you.
o Eat nourishing meals and exercise, and remind yourself that you are
worth it.
o As you make new choices, set out a plan and get a support partner.
"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!
Monday, March 7, 2011
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Fathers Need To Do Their Fair Share
Fathers...are you doing your fair share?
Parenting is the most labor-intensive, all-consuming, and ultimately rewarding job there is. That's why it makes a huge difference to moms if fathers are equally involved in care giving.
Women want and need dads to be full co-parents, involved with everything right from the beginning, from diaper changing to holding and feeding in the early years to helping with homework, being a co-disciplinarian, attending kids' sporting or music events, and the dozens of other aspects of children's daily lives.
Lots of dads are very involved in their children's lives and it's a joy to see. But some men still don't understand the critical role they play for both their wives/girlfriends and children. Mothers need their men to be fully present as a dad not only to provide emotional support and encouragement for the nonstop challenge of dealing with kids, but also to give to the kids their uniquely male attention.
Whether moms stay at home or have careers (or work at home!), men can and should do more than provide a paycheck. Supporting the family is important, of course, but kids and moms have needs that go beyond the financial. Dads and moms who share the burden of child raising equally - or as much as is possible depending on jobs and careers - can both be better parents because neither one is saddled with more than their fair share. And they can be better for each other because she doesn't feel ongoing resentment at having to do it all.
A woman who feels supported by her husband/boyfriend in her role as mother will be happier and have more energy for her man than if she has to do everything related to the kids like housework, cooking, laundry, driving kids around, shopping, etc. If you are a dad who refuses to do "women's" work or feel it's beneath you to do something like change a diaper, it's time for an attitude adjustment. Step up to the plate and do what you signed on for. If you want a better relationship with your wife, you will have to change your thinking on what it means to be a dad.
Try this: If you're not sure what to do to help more, ask. Your partner will be amazed and happy that you want to know. And then do what she asks.
It boils down to this: being a hands-on dad is good for children because they will grow up to be happier, more balanced adults. Being a hands-on dad is good for men because they live to their full potential as parents. And being a hands-on dad is good for mothers because they feel less stressed and are more inclined to appreciate their husbands/boyfriends. Doing the right thing as a father has tremendously positive ripple effects for the whole family.
"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!
Parenting is the most labor-intensive, all-consuming, and ultimately rewarding job there is. That's why it makes a huge difference to moms if fathers are equally involved in care giving.
Women want and need dads to be full co-parents, involved with everything right from the beginning, from diaper changing to holding and feeding in the early years to helping with homework, being a co-disciplinarian, attending kids' sporting or music events, and the dozens of other aspects of children's daily lives.
Lots of dads are very involved in their children's lives and it's a joy to see. But some men still don't understand the critical role they play for both their wives/girlfriends and children. Mothers need their men to be fully present as a dad not only to provide emotional support and encouragement for the nonstop challenge of dealing with kids, but also to give to the kids their uniquely male attention.
Whether moms stay at home or have careers (or work at home!), men can and should do more than provide a paycheck. Supporting the family is important, of course, but kids and moms have needs that go beyond the financial. Dads and moms who share the burden of child raising equally - or as much as is possible depending on jobs and careers - can both be better parents because neither one is saddled with more than their fair share. And they can be better for each other because she doesn't feel ongoing resentment at having to do it all.
A woman who feels supported by her husband/boyfriend in her role as mother will be happier and have more energy for her man than if she has to do everything related to the kids like housework, cooking, laundry, driving kids around, shopping, etc. If you are a dad who refuses to do "women's" work or feel it's beneath you to do something like change a diaper, it's time for an attitude adjustment. Step up to the plate and do what you signed on for. If you want a better relationship with your wife, you will have to change your thinking on what it means to be a dad.
Try this: If you're not sure what to do to help more, ask. Your partner will be amazed and happy that you want to know. And then do what she asks.
It boils down to this: being a hands-on dad is good for children because they will grow up to be happier, more balanced adults. Being a hands-on dad is good for men because they live to their full potential as parents. And being a hands-on dad is good for mothers because they feel less stressed and are more inclined to appreciate their husbands/boyfriends. Doing the right thing as a father has tremendously positive ripple effects for the whole family.
"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!
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