Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The Screamer Boss

As men, we are constantly growing into the roles of leadership in family, church, community, and government. Have you paid the cost to be the boss? What type of boss do you like? What kinds of boss drives you insane? Our leadership style is often predicated on the leaders that we've served up under, but nevertheless, you will have to deal with MANY style (or bosses).

I will be doing a series on the different types of bosses that you will encounter. As you read about the various styles, see where you fit in or inspire too! It doesn't matter if you're a CEO or a father; you are the BOSS of someone.


The screamer boss seems to think that he will get his way if he raises his voice to an unconscionable level: the higher the volume, the higher the commitment. How does a screamer end up a boss? Some clueless hiring managers equate screaming with managerial skill. All in all, screamers just want to know that they’re being heard, and they want recognition. If you can get along with your screamer boss, and gain his respect and trust, perhaps you can help guide him to lower tones.

"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!"

Be on the lookout for my new highly anticipated book; “Don’t Let the 4 Wheels F.O.O.L. You”!!! If you have ever felt as though society has counted you out! You won’t want to miss this inspirational road map to success!

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

The Martyr Boss

As men, we are constantly growing into the roles of leadership in family, church, community, and government.  Have you paid the cost to be the boss?  What type of boss do you like?  What kinds of boss drives you insane?  Our leadership style is often predicated on the leaders that we've served up under, but nevertheless, you will have to deal with MANY style (or bosses).

I will be doing a series on the different types of bosses that you will encounter.  As you read about the various styles, see where you fit in or inspire too!  It doesn't matter if you're a CEO or a father; you are the BOSS of someone.

The Martyr Boss

The martyr boss has done, does, and always will do anything for the good of the company. They worked Christmas Day, with pneumonia, in a snowstorm. They walked to and from work for 5 weeks after his car accident, with both legs broken. They stay every night until 8 pm without extra pay. They will complain, but won't go ANYWHERE!  How do you compete? You don’t. You listen. They’ll probably be there way past retirement, so it’s best to learn how to deal with them early on.  This style shows work ethic and sacrifice to his family, but also shows weakness and a wrong motive.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

No Grown Man Should Smell

Do you remember when you were a kid and your parents complained about your terrible breath and body odor?  If you were like many young boys, you didn’t care and you probably didn’t do anything about it. After all, you couldn’t smell it, and so out of nose, out of mind!

Unfortunately, I know far too many grown men who still smell like old onion, and whether they know it or not, their odor problem is wreaking havoc on their personal relationships, their business prospects, and the respect people give them. Most of us are too polite to confront a man with an odor problem and some men live completely oblivious to the foul destruction they leave in their wake. We grow accustomed to our own scents and as putrid as they are, we cannot recognize them.  Our nose filters out and ignores many background odors, such as the ones in our nasal passages.  Some of us also have poor olfactory senses, so bad odors don’t bother us like they do others. Time to wake up and smell the B.O.!

Dealing with Bad Breath

The first step is to recognize the problem. Every man should be aware of the potential horrors of his own breath.  You don’t want co-workers to cringe when you sit down next to them and women to turn their cheek when you go in for the kiss
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The best way to test your breath is to ask your spouse or a friend for their feedback. If no one is around, try scraping a bit of scum from the back of your tongue with your fingernail, placing it on the back of your hand, and then smelling it.

Bad breath typically occurs on an empty stomach, after eating certain foods like garlic, when suffering from sinus conditions, smoking, or for other more complicated reasons.  To eliminate it, be sure to eat, drink plenty of water, and brush your teeth, tongue, and gums regularly. Using Dr. Tichenor's , hydrogen peroxide or other types of washes may also help. Always keep a steady supply of breath mints. For some cases, Tic-Tacs are just not enough.  Try something stronger like Listerine Pocket Packs if you are a smoker or have a chronic breath problem.

If the above remedies don’t cure your bad breath, try a tongue scraper. Your tongue is like a carpet, and bacteria, food particles, and discharge from your sinuses get caught in the fibers, especially at the very back of the tongue, and turn into a bad breath breeding ground. A tongue scraper clears away these bad breath instigators; you’ll be amazed at the instant difference it can make.  If your bad breath persists no matter what you throw at it, pay a visit to your doctor.

Dealing with B.O.

Everyone has a problem with body odor.  The trick is to manage it correctly.  This can be done by staying clean, using proper soaps, shampoos, deodorants, colognes, and washing your clothes regularly. You may think that the jeans you have worn every day for the last two weeks still smell fine, but anyone with a modicum of olfactory awareness, will tell you that you smell like the plague. Wear your jeans twice, at absolute most, three times, and wash them.

Using proper cleaning products is absolutely essential.  When mismanaged, certain commercial fragrances create chemical warfare with your b/o.  I once got up the courage to tell a friend of mine how horrible his b/o was. The next day, he went out and bought some kind of cheap, spray-on deodorant.  The combination of the body odor and the crass deodorant was unbearable.  I almost wished I hadn’t told him about his problem.

Avoid spray-on deodorants and body sprays like the overpowering Axe Body Spray. There’s no need to envelop yourself in a cloud of fragrance. Instead, find a subtle, mild, or no-fragrance deodorant or antiperspirant. Many of your typical grocery store deodorants, soaps, and aftershaves have cheap, tacky fragrances that hang on the wearer like an ugly overcoat.  Use these products to get clean, and stay free of B.O. but don’t use them for their scents, unless you can find a quality product with a sophisticated scent that works well with your body’s natural odor. Also be aware of the scent of your laundry detergent. Many people find the cheap fragrances in detergent to be unbearable. It is safest to stick with non-scented detergent or a high quality detergent with a non-offensive, mild fragrance.

Finding a Proper Cologne

Scents, like the clothing we wear and the language we use, inadvertently communicate a lot about us. An overpowering scent can be seen as vain, tacky, or sexually desperate. Of course it is safest to wear no scent at all. However, an appropriate cologne can subtly enhance the image we project to the world.

There are two philosophies with regards to wearing fragrance. According to the first philosophy, people should wear a fragrance like they wear a piece of clothing. When people pass you, they might say, “Wow, that’s a really great scent you are wearing.” In the second approach, a person chooses a fragrance that will subtly enhance their own natural scent. Instead of saying “That’s a great cologne,” they might say “You smell nice today.” I personally prefer this second approach, and would strongly suggest that this is the best approach for daily use. On special occasions, you might find a strong, unique scent that draws attention to itself, but in general, you should find a subtle scent that mildly enhances your aura.

Finding the right scent for you will take some work. Because everyone’s natural smell is different, colognes will react differently to each individual. It is impossible to judge simply from smelling the bottle. You need to wear the scent and see how it reacts with your natural smell over time. Don’t be too eager to pick one out. Go to the department store, find a scent you like and spray a small amount on your arm. Notice how the scent works with your body throughout the day. Many men and women have made the mistake of purchasing a scent, only to abandon it after the first use, simply because they can’t stand the smell of it after a few hours. These are things you should try to find out before you make a purchase. Enlist the help of your spouse or girlfriend. They will appreciate the care you are taking to manage your hygiene, and females are typically far more sensitive to fragrance; after all, no grown man should smell!

"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!"

Be on the lookout for my new highly anticipated book; “Don’t Let the 4 Wheels F.O.O.L. You”!!! If you have ever felt as though society has counted you out! You won’t want to miss this inspirational road map to success!

Monday, November 5, 2012

If Hugging Another Man is Wrong...I Don't Want to be Right!

My father has been asking me for hugs and kisses lately.  I'm 39 years old, and I must admit that it has made me feel uncomfortable.  He's a great father; I've not experienced any sort of abuse; I clearly don't mind my mother showing me the same type of affection; but I seem to try to avoid these loving situations with my own dad!  What's the problem?  There are other men that would KILL for their fathers to show an inch of attention to them!  I'm intelligent, educated, well read, and even spiritual, but has society's ignorance towards male affection infiltrated my mentality?  Sorry dad; this is stupid!  I'm blessed to have you; you can have ALL the hugs and kisses that you can handle!  I must be honest though; "Do I believe that showing affection to another man is wrong?"  Of course not!  Or did I?

Who was it that decided male affection is wrong? That it is wrong for a father to hug his son? That guys should feel weird expressing their emotions and feeling for another person or friend? It bothers me so much that we put all of the socially-accepted norms of showing affection on women, when guys have so much of it pent up. Guys NEED it. More-so than women I would say! Guys think about these things and take pain harder because they weigh in what has happened to them and what HASN'T happened to them. Affection included. Guys long for it and it drives them mad! Women take things men say out of context and judge them based on what they see and not really what men FEEL. Men need affection. They need to feel. Don't worry; it doesn't make you gay!  Why is it so wrong?

"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!"

Be on the lookout for my new highly anticipated book; “Don’t Let the 4 Wheels F.O.O.L. You”!!! If you have ever felt as though society has counted you out! You won’t want to miss this inspirational road map to success!