You may have read this from
somewhere: 75% of women do not reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. The good
news is that as a husband you can improve on this situation to be in the 25%
that make her sexually addicted to you. This requires you to understand the 4
stages of orgasm which are as follows:
(1) Excitement
(2) Plateau
(3) Orgasm
(4) Resolution
Excitement
What happens when you get excited? Blood rushes to your penis and it goes erect.
As for women, it works in the same way, with blood rushes into her genitals
causing her clitoris to swell and her vagina to increase in diameter and
length. Then she will start to lubricate, that its, she gets wet. While getting
excited can happen to men quickly, for women, this requires gradual escalation.
The key to get her excited is to build up her anticipation and tension.
Anticipation (otherwise known as “teasing” and “excitement”) is an effective
tool to get her more aroused so as to give her higher chances of achieving orgasm.
The process of building up anticipation also results in cranking up sexual
tension as well, which will have to be released in the form of an orgasm later.
The way to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surrounding the
main “target” before you actually go for it. For example, you can do this by
stroking her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before touching her vagina. At the
same time, the tension inside her starts building up and at some point needs to
be released. When building up her anticipation, you are also building up your
own too. Therefore, it is very important for you to maintain self-control and
keep the escalation at the right pace.
Plateau
The term plateau gives the impression that there is not a lot happening. On the
contrary, there is a lot going on. Your heart rate and your breathing speed up.
Blood is congested in your genitals, waiting to blow. The same also happens to
her. Listen to her breathing and feel her heart rate. If you do not notice any
changes, go back to step one.
Orgasm
Now, here is where men and women differ. At this phase, men’s arousal builds up
intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. In other
words, this is the point of no return stage for men as he is going to cum.
Women do not have this. A woman can be a split second away from orgasm and it
may be interrupted. She must be stimulated all the way through her orgasm.
After this, there is the Refractory Period. That is the part where men cum and
definitely not going to climax again. Here again, women do not have a
Refractory Period! They still remain at the Plateau Stage.
The way to cope with this is to extend the men’s “plateau” stage. This means
men need to maintain their level of arousal without surging to the climax
stage. Here are is a way to prolong the “plateau” phase:
(a) Maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to gradually
gain momentum and when you feel you are fairly close to climax, slow down and
if possible to withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers
off. Explain to your wife why you are doing this because her support and
understanding is important to strengthen confidence in your performance.
Resolution
After the Refractory Stage, comes the Resolution. This is the stage where men
are probably snoring away. Since women do not go through the Refractory Stage,
Resolution begins once stimulation has ended. If she is sexually satisfied, her
brain will be flooded with endorphins, the happiness hormone.
"I pray this article empowers you to M.A.N. up!"
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