Are You Wearing a Mask?

Sometimes, men who have been victims of sexual abuse place an outer mask on to hide who they really are and how they really feel.  Here are some common disguises:

• Blistering: Filing room with words leaving no room for anyone to pierce fragile defenses.

• Invisible: Silent and self-effacing

• Intimidating: Intelligent, glib, sharp-witted and psychologically savvy that no one challenges his verbal barrages.

• Angry: Radiating rage, criticism, and intolerance

• Outrageous: Shocking in word, appearance, and behavior

• Placating/pleasing: Being so nice and caring that attention is directed towards others.

• Comedy: Relying on superficiality and banter to distract attention away from pain.

• Teddy Bear: The warm, comforting and non threatening creature that is safe..

• Academic: Retreating into his head to keep from contacting with painful emotions.

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